How to Deal with Doubt.
There may be points where you look back at your decisions and question yourself. You may worry about the things you have lost or stand to lose because of your choices. Here are a few strategies that may aid in eliminating any second thoughts.
1. Instead of focusing on the negatives, look towards the future and your gains.
Take, for example, my decision to move to San Francisco. Many negative thoughts popped up that could be counteracted with positivity.
I am losing some friends, but growing closer to those whose values align with mine
I am leaving a secure job, but working towards a promising and fulfilling future
I am going through my Europe savings, but can earn it back (& it will always be there)
2. Find reasons why everything will fall into place
In the same vein as the first strategy, find reasons why you will succeed rather than fail and why it will be okay if you do “fail”.
The cost of living is expensive, but
I’ll find creative ways to live within my means
I can always move back
Better an “oh well” than a “what if”
3. Remind yourself of why you made or are making your decision
The mind is a fickle thing, and it can be quite easy to dissuade yourself from action. It works to look back at why you made your choices to remember the good in them.
I made the decision to move because
I’m dissatisfied with my career
I’m craving a change after being in Dallas for five years
I have social connections in San Francisco
I’ll have a lot of creative opportunities in San Francisco
I’ll still be near family
It’ll be a fresh start with possibilities for growth and independence
Everything is fleeting, and as long as you continue to move along your path with grit and flexibility, you can accomplish amazing things. Remember, everything will work out in the end. Your life may not turn out like you imagined it would, but it will be okay. Just different.
There is beauty in imperfection and change. If needed, let yourself grieve, but also celebrate! You have everything ahead of you. Focus on the things that matter, and let go of your preconceived notions of how life should be. Every definition of success is different – find yours and work towards it.