Monthly feature highlighting song recommendations accompanied by inspirational anecdotes. This month’s focus is a recording by the Canadian duo, Purity Ring. Discussed are fresh starts with regards to couples.
Begin Again – Purity Ring
Love – the elusive emotion pursued by many a romantic. It is also the inspiration behind Purity Ring’s single, “Begin Again”. New off of their latest album, Another Eternity, it’s a lovely electro-pop dream complete with haunting vocals. The track alludes to a couple who have had their ups and downs, namely because one or the other has tried to deny their connection. Ultimately, their attraction draws them back to each other, much like the gravitational pull of the moon and the earth.
“You be the moon, I’ll be the earth, and when we burst,
start over, oh darling, begin again.”
When it comes to relationships, new beginnings can mean a multitude of things. There are so many novel experiences that you can have with another individual. So what constitutes a fresh start? Two ideas come to mind:
Relationships are fluid, evolving as the years pass. During this time, there are many events that couples accept as significant milestones:
Getting engaged or married
Moving to a new city
Buying a home
Each of these can be seen as an opportunity to “begin again”. I have several friends who are moving on to the next stage in their relationships. Just this weekend, two of them are expected to be engaged in Tulum, Mexico. It’s an exciting step!
Support of each other throughout each major life change is important. It’s always comforting to know you are appreciated. Some simple ways you might do this:
1) Say “I love you”
2) Plan a date night
3) Give a loving kiss and hug at random
4) Do a house chore that has been lingering
5) Buy a small gift that you think they will enjoy
These are inspired by The Five Love Languages, a book by Gary D. Chapman. He states that everyone prefers to accept and show love in a combination of the following manners: words of affirmation, quality time, physical touch, acts of services, or gifts. While you may prefer one method, your partner might like another better.
You don’t want to allow changes to negatively affect your relationship, so make sure to regularly express how much you care for one another. That way, each transition will be that much easier and more enjoyable.
One of the most important aspects of a healthy partnership. A fresh start is made every time we grant forgiveness. Humans are ultimately fallible beings, bound to make mistakes. Whether intentionally or not, we will from time to time hurt those we love. An argument, broken promises, a prolonged absence, or any other reason for pain requires mature communication.
1) Cool off
2) Talk about the issue
3) Voice feelings
4) Acknowledgment and listening
5) Brainstorm solutions
7) Forgive and let go
It isn’t about winning or acting in retaliation, but about loving discussion where each individual feels safe to express their emotions. If you have difficulty with forgiveness, remind yourself of why you love this person. It’s easy to forget the positive aspects of a relationship when you are seeing red in the present. If the partnership is healthy, you should have no problem thinking of the good in your significant other. You will also be able to openly talk to them without fear.
True love is selfless, where we wish the best for our partners and support them. This does not mean that we put up with bad behavior. But when we do choose to forgive, we don’t hold on to the anger and hurt. Instead, we let it go in order to benefit the relationship.
The above extends to relationships beyond the romantic too: friendships, co-workers, and family. The important things to remember are open dialogue and respect. Without them, we would not be able to provide emotional support for others and express our own feelings. I’ve been guilty of suppressing my emotions in the past, and it never ends well. It’s something I continue to work on in my own relationships. In fact, it was only in my last dating experience that I felt enough ease to voice my true thoughts. It was like pulling teeth to get me to open up, but with his help, I did it. Let me tell you, it is a weight off of your shoulders. Promise.
By being honest and authentic, we foster wholesome connections with others – contributing to their well-being and our own. Every day can be a new beginning for a relationship by making a concerted effort to cherish one another and think of the positive.
“My moon, oh my moon, not even into,
another eternity, will stop your lovely orbiting.”
Remember, love makes the world go round!
*Album art image via Purity Ring